It’s way past our bed
time but we are too alert to think of sleeping. Our minds and hearts, have been
entangled in the surreal love that promises to exist only in the Disney world.
An approaching sound interrupts us. And we both stop and close our eyes. I listen, every new step is louder than the last one. And I
recognize his footsteps almost too quickly. I wonder where he has been. What he
heard there, and who again has fed his mind. The disturbing sound of his shoes,
unquestionably from Aba eventually seize. And just as I am about to reopen my
tightly shut eyes, they begin again, this time drawing nearer, faster by the
second. He calls my name, and I can certainly feel his presence at the door. I
want him to go away, so I don’t answer. Disgruntled, he hisses and shuts my
door. Only he has the right to do that. I own no room in his house to be
shutting doors by myself.
Sharon giggles, nudging
me to keep on reading. As soon as I am about to open the Frog and the princess
book, right at that part, where the Frog turns into
a Prince. He dashes into my room, flinging the door open. His eyes are red, wide
and threatening. And even from my bed I can tell that he is drunk.
“Come out you two! Stand
up from there!” He yells.
It takes our brains too long to
process this information. So we are staring bewildered at him. When he leaves
quickly, we follow him out confusedly. He leads us to our mother who is asleep
and then he gives her a rude awakening.
“What are you teaching this
idiots? I come home but there is no one to greet me.”
Now I don’t know who is more
confused us or her?
“Welcome.” She fully awakes
and greets.
“See them, look at what
they are wearing to sleep. Does no one here have sense?”
Resignedly she says to us, “Go change into your nightwear.”
“Look at you, you call
yourself a mother!” he barks.
By the time the quarrel
which ensues is over. It’s past midnight. He literally stops when he is tired
and wants to retire. The next morning he does the barest minimum and complains
of everyone else’s efforts. Then he sends us off to school, with hopes of
bringing out the best in us, when really he has relieved us of our better
parts.
I know that it is
because he is a man that he gets away with most things. Like being a lousy
Father, drinking alcohol way past his tolerance, and speaking so loudly to us
he instructs fear instead of love and respect. A thousand others cowardly
blame it on his biological make up. They say Mother has oxytocin, and no matter
what she is going to love us. While Father has something different. Something that fuels his pride and makes him promiscuous. Something in him that makes him want to fight those he ought to be protecting. That thing that makes him a "man".
So don’t blame him. For it’s in his nature that he teaches sons to be just like
him; not weaklings but fighters in their own homes. Don’t mind him if he
silences daughters in public lest they bring him shame. I also know that he
works hard. But because he is a man, he believes strongly that his work cannot
be done by anyone else but him.
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